Whether its white male or black male, tall person, strong person or spiritual – most of us can find our own external experience of entitlement. But it’s also the thing “we” “found” by our twenties in order to survive in the patriarchal, top down world of dominance and control. Those of us who found our own keys to success mostly found the part of us that could dominate in some way because that’s what works in our outer world.
Early on I choose my ability to DO it as my entitlement, it was easier to just do things myself rather than collaborate. The family around me really hated that! Then later I perfected my mind through a metaphysical spiritual keyhole that few could follow me through. That gave me the edge, something I could sell, that set me apart and gave me my own brand of entitlement! A spiritual entitlement that I taught to students so they could claim their own abilities, unlike in another era where we played it out as sorcery, using our mastery to take up the tools and abilities of others for our own advantage. Check it out, you probably took up a cultural entitlement unconsciously or made up one that suited your own default to mastery mechanisms to a tee. Those default mechanisms mostly come from our past lives where we spent whole lifetimes perfecting some thread of reality that paid off with success in the local culture.
Each personal default to mastery zone must be remembered, reclaimed, and reconstituted for current collaborative co-creation.
Another mechanism of entitlement gets played out as some form of dominance on the playground in elementary school. This one is the most dangerous to us culturally now – the one where the biggest, richest, prettiest, nastiest is still stuck in the schoolyard of reality. The ones of us or the part of us that still lives here missed the primal scream of the sixties, the self help groups of the seventies, the flight from the dysfunctional codependency of the eighties, and even the backlash to all consciousness movements of the nineties. So here we are in the new millennium’s second decade with our entitlement cathedral showing cracks in the glass slides. This time we all have to dismantle the entitlement, even the ones born unquestionably into it.
The planet, the people, and the astrology, all require that we DROP IT AND GO.
Take up the collaborations willingly, gracefully and enthusiastically, because we can’t save ourselves individually anymore. We can’t continue to work alone and get by because getting by isn’t enough. In collaborations of creativity we can find grand resolutions instead of band-aid solutions. In collaborations of co-creation we can become a new reality that includes and thrives on everyone’s participation and wellbeing, which in turn creates more collaborations of co-creation. It’s a snowball rolling downhill benefiting everyone along the way.
“Glass slides?” you say.
It’s a brilliant system for monitoring the outer external effects of change.
Once when I toured the cathedral in York, England I saw these little glass microscope slides glued on the tower’s stonework a hundred feet off the ground in its tower. It turns out that is the practical method of monitoring the majestic tower for potential settling and dangerous although infinitesimally small movements of change. The glass slide is glued on either side of any tiny cracks so that even the tiniest change will break the glass slide. The cracks were so small that I didn’t even register that they were under there when I saw the slides.
The irony of that tiny change threatening the strength and longevity of the colossal monument to a spiritual tradition of entitlement that claimed the resources from the people who both willingly and unwillingly contributed the resources of their reality to build it.
The thing about entitlement that doesn’t work is when it unconsciously precludes others from their rightful place in the mix. The pattern, of course, that is really boring us today is the one from the genderly/racially unconscious masculine still stuck, no matter how subtle or needy, in dominance and control. All of us can have our Masculine playing out the old tired patterns. They can be in white men, black men, brown men, yellow men, gay women, straight women, children and dogs! Yes, I said dogs. They resonate and respond to the masculine non-physically in the energy field and physically in their behavior. If you have a dog, you know what it takes to be alpha and the bigger or more alpha the dog the more alpha you have to behave to stay in control and dominance.
This is why the Haitians will not play out some weird violence in their grief. They aren’t stuck in our western, American, cultural entitlement of dominance or control.
When nature says its time to collaborate, the wise begin the co-creation.
It is my feeling that compassion and truth are activated by the profundity of humanity in need as in the experience of a major earthquake. People of the truth respond with compassion and appropriate behavior unlike the old dominance and control, which would either be unable to respond or would behave in an opportunistic way. The last entitlement hold-outs are still working the media for advantage since it might be the only thing they’ve got left to play. Likely the Haitians are not getting the television messages from us. They’ll do their own right thing. And like Katrina the world’s wise and compassionate ones are already on their way to Haiti to help in any way they can with what they’ve got right now. They know who they are and I bless them and send them my love as they begin a magnificent collaborative co-creation of life emerging from the ruble of mother nature’s demand for presence.
In case you need more information about how to be aware and demanding in the dissolution of the patterns of entitlement in your own life here is a little help.
A Profile of Entitlement:
– Verbal monologue-ing that is not interesting to the listener – and only mildly to the cultural anthropologist. Verbosity on the topic that defines the particular self appointed field of mastery in reference to the world of duality and polarization that puts the entitled on top.
– Repeatedly and often soliciting rave reviews and active recognition of this mastery and prowess. Did you see that? Did you like that? I did that, That was me, It’s all about me, me, me, me, me. Designed to reinforce the entitled’s position at the top of at least the listener’s field of reference.
– Diminishing the options of the perceived underlings in order to maintain the illusion that the entitled is still supreme in some regard. Classic to this tenet is the abused wife cut off from family, friend’s and culture by having no car, violence if leaving the house or talking to others who threaten the dominance of the entitled person.
– Needing to experience the world through one’s sexuality or verbalizations as the primary domination. Loves football, dogs, and anything else that can be verbally controlled or physically won. Ok I’d love to have this one not be true, my sister is a football maniac and she assures me that she is not entitled in any way but the truth is that these items do make up a large part of the pattern structure so it magnetizes the entitled ones into its field of play.
On this idea, the pattern of entitlement reaches is cliché. It’s a good place for me to get back to the subtlety of it because we all have to personally unravel by UN CHOOSING our own entitlement behaviors. For most women and some men, it is now time to create our own authentic field of respect and EXPECT-ation.
It’s time for us to expect to be treated with respect, expect reverence for the feminine, expect protection for the earth and her natural creatures, expect to be abundant, expect to be included in the flow of life, expect to have our creativity recognized, and expect to collaborate wildly and successfully as we co-create a grand resolution for ourselves, our communities, our families of choice, and our meaningful relationships.
Happy eclipse season and may all your created entitlements dissolve into authentic birthrights.
Collaborative Co-Creation is our next step into abundant health, wealth, happiness, and wisdom.
Whether you are back stage, on stage, in the audience, or at your computer, I honor your part in our collaboration to co-create a new reality.
Casey Wood, 310-430-9283
Casey's Oasis 
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